It is not because you are weak that you have problems with emotional and mental strength. These strengths come as skills that anyone can learn. Being mentally and emotionally stronger is important because it helps you gain confidence in yourself while building stronger relationships with others.
1. Don’t Take It Personal
Don’t get upset with people or situations, both are powerless without your reaction.
We can get offended by others easily because we take what they do to heart as if it were a personal attack on us.
When it comes to dealing with mean or awful people, honestly, it’s not about you, it never was.
100% of the time the other person was always thinking about themselves, and how to inflate their ego.
The more you react the more their ego feels elated by the fact that they could have power over you and your emotions.
You ask, ‘’well what did I ever do to them?’’. Nothing, you don’t have to do anything to anybody for them to want to upset you.
2. You Can’t Please Everyone
You can’t please everyone and yourself at the same timeAnna Rose
The truth is, not everyone is going to like you or will want to be your friend. The great thing about that concept is that you have the same right.
Have you ever met someone and thought, ‘’Oh…I don’t know if I like them’’?
By only being around their presence that you have made this conclusion, yet they haven’t done anything bad to you.
Accept that you won’t be everyone’s cup of tea and not everyone will be your cup of tea! That’s okay!
You shouldn’t have to jump through hoops over bend over backward to try to get the other person to like you. Even they become your friend, you will always have to please them to stay.
In life it is better to be hated for who you truly are than to be loved as to how others want you to be. Don’t change yourself to be loved by others.
True happiness in friendships is created in an environment where everyone is comfortable being themselves.
3. Immediate Gratification Has a Price
Great things take time.
We live in a world where we have access to anything we need at our fingertips. You can do a video chat with someone in a different country. You can get whatever you need to buy at your doorstep the next day. We have become spoiled by the advances of modern technology.
Our patience muscle has been compromised and atrophied. If we don’t get the things we want immediately then we easily become emotional. We get frustrated, upset, and angry. We lose interest in waiting. We give up soon after the process only begins.
Good things take time, as they should. We shouldn’t expect good things to happen overnight. Actually, getting something too easily or too soon can cheapen the outcome.John Wooden
I believe that we easily take things for granted which come too easy to us. When we have to work hard, and persevere we appreciate the process, ourselves, and the results more.
4. Don’t Be Scared to Speak Up
When you stand up for yourself you are standing up for everyone who will follow your positive example.Doreen Virtue
It takes courage to stand up for yourself and to be honest about your feelings. Sometimes when you stand up for yourself we might be the last one standing and that’s okay!
No matter what anyone thinks or says, you are always worth standing up for no matter how big or small the situation is.
When you stand up for yourself speak calmly, clearly, and precisely. Don’t let others interfere when you are speaking. They can say what they want afterward.
You have just as many rights as anyone else here. If you have done nothing wrong say it if you need to clarify a situation then say it if you feel you need to be heard, then say it all of it.
Speaking up for yourself does not make you aggressive, it makes you assertive.
5. Don’t Take Yourself Too Seriously
Don’t beat yourself up all the time. At times we can be our own worst critics.
We take life and ourselves too seriously. We become obsessed with our thoughts of why things didn’t turn out the way we wanted them to.
Perfectionism is an illusion and striving for it will drive you mad. We are all human. We make mistakes, we learn, and then we grow. We are not made to be perfect; we were made to live life and to experience all that comes with life.
Perfection is an illusion based on our own perception
6. Stop Making Excuses
Whatever you do, do not make excuses for yourself or others. Running from your problems never solves anything, and no matter how far you run, they will catch up to you.
Everyone’s job is to take responsibility for themselves. Every decision we make in life has good or bad consequences. Part of adulthood is making decisions and being able to live with the results. Good results bring happiness, while bad ones bring wisdom and growth. Either way, you are winning if you have this mindset.
7. Stop The Fear of Being Alone
Being alone does not mean loneliness. Sometimes we need to be alone to recharge, to think, and or to use that time to really enjoy our own company.
Unfortunately, many people detest and fear the thought of being alone with themselves.
If you hate being alone because it makes you feel lonely, anxious, or depressed then that is a warning that you might have some unresolved hurt and pain that needs healing.
Another sign is that you might need healing is that you jump from one relationship to the next, never taking breaks in between to grieve, or move on physically and emotionally.
8. If You Are Not Happy, Then It’s Never Worth It!
How can it be any other way?!
Nothing is worth having if you are constantly miserable and unhappy.
No amount of money, no career, no relationship, no friendships is worth having if it means sacrificing your happiness.
Tell me what is the point when your happiness is on the line? Isn’t that our soul’s purpose in life, to find happiness while experiencing life?
The reason why some people fall into the trap of sacrificing their happiness is that they don’t even know what will truly make them happy. We listen to our family members, our friends, and society telling us what should make us happy. How in the world does anyone know you more than you know yourself? If you don’t know yourself well enough by now then something is out of alignment.
9. Making yourself a priority Is Not the Same as Being Selfish
Don’t let others tell you that you are selfish because you put yourself first in times of need. Putting yourself first means that you practice self-care WHENEVER you feel that your mind, body, and spirit tell you that you need to slow down and take a second.
We have a responsibility to take care of our needs first when we get burned out, overworked, or things are starting to take a toll on us physically and mentally.
Others can tend to make us feel bad about trying to put ourselves first when we need to practice self-love and self-care.
10. You Always Have a Choice
Everyone has the freedom of free will. Never for a second feel like something thing or someone has you trapped. Sometimes we trick ourselves into thinking that we really don’t have options because the other options might not sound easy or pleasant. Don’t fool yourself in this way, or you’ll stay trapped not by the situation but by your mind.
The choice to take action to accomplish what you want or what you deserve is entirely up to you. No one is going to seek you out and no one is going to do it for you. It’s your move.Catherine Pulsifer